How Can You Dare to Suck?
“How can I dare to suck?”
This is a question I’ve been asking myself lately.
I’ve been asking it because I’m aware that I wasn’t participating in things for fear that I wouldn’t be very good at them…or put more bluntly…that I would suck at them.
Because let’s be honest, I hate sucking at things…or more so, my ego really hates it.
I’ve been thinking about how when I was in elementary school I wasn’t very good at drawing, so I immediately concluded that because I drew sucky pictures, it meant I wasn’t good at art and therefore I wasn’t creative.
It wasn’t until recently when I started to own myself as a creative again; where I allowed myself to try new artistic endeavors and gave myself permission to totally suck at them. I told myself that I didn’t have to be Monet…I just had to show up and try. It was fun and I had a blast creating, and was so proud of my perfectly imperfect finished piece.
Similarly, when I was in elementary and middle school, I felt like I was always the worst at gym class. Those drills where they made you do lots of push-ups and sit-ups? I totally sucked at those. So for most of my life I’ve told myself that while I’m a great skier, I’m a terrible athlete in every other area. I believed that disempowering thought that ‘I sucked at sports’….and therefore I didn’t like to participate in pick-up games of soccer, volleyball, baseball…you name it.
So this weekend I decided that it was time to dare to suck with sports again. I signed up for a 6:15am Spin class on Tues and Thurs, and tomorrow I’m going to a class that has scared me for years because I’m pretty sure that I will totally suck at it at first…I’m going to a version of Cross Fit at our local gym (this is way out of my comfort zone). But I spoke to the instructor today and he said, “Even if you show up and do half of the exercises, you are still blowing it out of the water and doing so much more than you would if you were at home and in bed.” “Alright, deal,” I thought…”I can do this.”
And that Spin class this morning where I dared to suck? I had so much fun! I nailed it and kept up with the instructor and totally didn’t suck as much as I thought I did. I challenged my assumptions that it would be super hard and therefore I would be the worst….and it ended up that it wasn’t any of those things – while it was hard, I had so much fun in the process!
Who knew that courageously daring to suck could be so much fun? It’s incredible how life is opening up to me when I stay in that question and don’t allow my fears, insecurities, or old stories hold me back.
Even today with this #truesday post, I’m allowing myself to show some of my insecurities and I’m totally daring to suck by sharing this. But even if it inspires just one of you to dare to suck in return, then sharing this was worth it.
So tell me in the comments…what is something that you’ve been afraid of before where you allowed yourself to dare to suck? Or better yet…what is one thing you haven’t tried recently for fear of sucking, that you could go and try on this week? I promise you it won’t be as bad as you think, and you might even surprise yourself and have fun in the process!